Category: Lust ≠ Love Series

Although all types are related this series focuses predominantly on sexual lust. Explaining why it is addictive and why it is a struggle to overcome it. Have a read through the following posts including testimonies.

For series 2 which will be mainly about Love in different types relationships…send in your testimonies please. :)

Book Review: Pathway To Freedom (the story of a porn addict) – Elisha Kolade

Hello Testimonies speakers, I pray this post meets you well.

Today, I have been given the opportunity to review a book from the author himself – Elisha Kolade… well, I say today. But I’ve actually had the book collecting dust for the past 6 months (covers face).

Unlike the past two book reviews I have done previously (check out Book Review Series), I will be following a guideline (which I now plan to use forever) so that you can get an in depth review of the book. If you have read the book and agree or disagree with some of the comments I am about to put out there, please feel free to comment below.

Title: Pathway to Freedom (the story of a porn addict)

Author: Elisha Kolade (2015)

Just by looking….

The book cover is eye catching and bright yet very simple. As a part time artistic type of person, without the title, I would never really associate its image with “a pathway to freedom”, in my opinion the picture signifies to me of a journey that has been embarked on – which compliments the statement “the story of a porn addict”.

A statement which is enough to eye catch and prompt people into maybe buying the book. Unfortunately, if we were to judge its book by its front cover it may only appeal to the mature audience and possibly only to those who are determined to overcome this type of addiction.

To probably captivate older teenagers and young adults, the blurb could have started off with a few basic questions that will make them validate themselves ie. has porn taken over your life?

During the read…

I started reading this book at the beginning of the month (July). Nine days in and I had touched down on page 77 out of 135 pages (over half way). Now for someone who is reading for change and expecting an impact, the book will need to be read a bit slower than what I was achieving within a few days. It is a book to be read and applied to his her/life section by section or chapter by chapter (which ever one floats the readers boat).

So what actually caught my attention? Well, a number of things, but I will list down my main three.

One – The book went back to basics. Came out with essential facts and figures about sex and pornography. Tempted to call the book a ‘semi – dictionary’ as it defines the necessary terminologies associated with Christianity such as ‘restoration’ (as well as keywords associated with porn addiction. Which will be really beneficial for readers who have just given their life to Christ for the first time and also struggling with the addiction.

Two – The author executes his testimony rather well throughout the whole book. Testimonies rather than testimony! He details the process he had to go through to overcome porn addiction. He describes his setbacks, his hurdles and even gives us an insight to his infant days as a Christian. I mean what skillful way to engage your readers…

Three – A personal one. “your mind is a farm land and your thoughts are the seeds” – now I have never heard that before. Without diverting too much away from the book itself, I’ll just say this: The Bible carries all the required nutrients and conditions to help the seed (out thoughts) germinate and blossom beautifully – to gain access to these requirements we have to read frequently or seeds (our thoughts) will malnourish (room for negative thoughts, room for temptation).

In terms of how the book is written; it is casual. It is honest. Honest to the point where potentially he copied and pasted out of his journey into this handbook.

I initially thought it was too much and decided to get a second opinion. My friend who only read sections of it just said “it’s what people need to hear to relate, so that they know they are not going through it alone” – thanks to him I saw the book in another perspective. My bad!

On a whole the book is a good book. It contains the relevant materials, facts and steps on how to overcome addiction. Its written in a way that can reach out to a wide age range (from age 18 onwards of course).

The Pathway to Freedom can be found to be simple, casual, chatty and funny at times. However, unfortunately, the content of the book does not allow the pages to turn at a fast pace – some sections of the book is somewhat not succinct. and also some of his short accounts are found to be repeated in the book. But saying that, I read the book in 10 days – which I do not recommend for someone who is expectant for a change.

The Pathway to Freedom is almost similar to another book called Sex is not the Problem (Lust is) by Joshua Harris, I used the book last year to write posts for the Lust ≠ Love Series. The book came third party testimonies as well as group activities (or questions) at the end of each chapter – which may poke you to rank this book above Elisha’s. But when you have studied the book side to side; unlike Joshua Harris’ book, Elisha’s book is raw when displaying his own accounts and what he went through to relate and to encourage his readers to find the pathway to freedom.

Thank you for reading this post…typing to you real soon.

-D-

Lust ≠ Love Series: Lies And Truth

When we are faced with sinful desires or overcoming them, sometimes we are faced with lies, excuses  or even a mental battle that may result us into falling into temptation. This final post in this Lust Love Series identifies some of the lies/excuses that sinful desires tell you, Joshua Harris in his book called Sex Is Not The Problem (Lust Is) came up with scriptural weapons to fight them back with. Which lie are you familiar with? (more…)

Lust ≠ Love Series: M for Mastur…🙊

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Masturbation. A topic that is always tagged with a heated debate. Particularly when considering some Christians who ask: “Is this really wrong?” “Is it OK?” or saying: “the Bible did not mention it” or “it must be alright to do it then”.

Well, it’s not. If you are wondering about the “ifs” and “what’s” of masturbation, its somewhat an indication that there is some lack of knowledge when referring to the danger of lust and the accurate scriptural views of sex.

Let me drop a verse in.. “we perish through lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6). (more…)

Lust ≠ Love Series: “Let’s Get Scriptural” (Romans 6:12)

Hey guys!

Very short post.

I think this post will mean I am up to speed for the Lust ≠ Love series, so next week I will be finally rounding up this theme.

So this week I have actually been looking at ovecoming lust and looking at ways to avoid lust triggers, action wise. Today, I want to use a different approach, by using a specific scripture, which is Romans 6:12. I actually got this idea from the audio testimony below. Have a listen. I hope the verse helps and it ministers to you. We can and we will overcome lust.

Pornography Has No Dominion Over Me – Ade

(Apologies if the sound quality is abit poor)


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Let’s us not be slaves to lust or any other type of sin, let us use the Word as weapon to set ourselves free.

Keep repeating to yourself…

“Therefore do not let [insert specific sin] reign in MY mortal body so that I obey evil desires”.

Other posts included in this series:


“Come here and listen, let me tell you what God has done for me” – Psalm 66:16 (NKJ)

If you have a testimony relating to sexual lust or any other type and would like to encourage someone with your story, here’s your space here and don’t worry, I’ll do the editing.

Lust ≠ Love Series: The Stain On My “Perfect Life” – Anonymous

Testimony Time!

Your Breakthrough time.


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I first started watching pornography when I was about 14. My parents were often out late in the evening at church functions so came home early in the morning. I knew about sex from school and friends but had never really seen it before except briefly in movies. Films back then weren’t as graphic as they are now, so the sex scenes I’d watched before then didn’t depict that much nudity. It started out as curiosity but soon developed into an obsession. Although we had Sky I couldn’t watch anything that required payment, which most pornographic material does, in case my parents found out when they got the bill. I was limited to what I could watch online, firstly because I shared a desktop with my siblings, and also because I didn’t want to accidentally download a virus and have to start answering questions as to its origin. I think the obsession developed because I always had a problem talking to boys, not just romantically but on a friendship level. I would get shy and self-conscious and the women in these movies seemed so confident. On some level I knew it was fake. I would tell myself that it wasn’t real, that what I was watching wasn’t an accurate depiction of sex, but I still found myself drawn to it. I never told anyone because I felt too ashamed. In other areas of life, I was pretty much the perfect child – straight A’s at school, played keyboard in church and taught at Sunday school, polite, helped out around the house. Perfect pastor’s daughter. This was the one area of my life that was a stain on an otherwise spotless existence, in my eyes anyway. I’d sat through several services at church where pornography was denounced, but I always felt that it was directed towards the men. I’ve read reports that show that a lot of women watch pornographic material for a variety of different reasons, but I don’t think the church addresses this enough. I knew I had a problem, and that the only way to be free of it was to come to God humbly, and just lay it on the cross. I don’t think as a young Christian I fully understood what grace actually means. It took me a long time to completely be free of the addiction. Whilst I knew that I had been forgiven, I didn’t fully commit myself to stop watching it properly. I thought if I stopped watch porn per se that I would be living right. But I deluded myself and found ways to still watch explicit material, usually by intentionally watching a movie or TV series with explicit sex scenes. At my lowest points, I questioned my sexuality. Whilst I have never had romantic feelings towards other women in real life, pornography is manipulative in that most films regardless of if they are aimed at men or women will have a larger amount of female nudity than male nudity. Seeing this on a continuous basis made me question whether or not I was really attracted to women, or just physically reacting to what I was watching. Even though I am now free of this addiction, I still know to guard myself and be careful what I watch. My Dad told me once that what we see and hear affects our spirit man in ways we cannot imagine. You may think “oh it’s just a TV show, oh it’s just a song” but you won’t know the damage it is doing spiritually to you until it’s too late. I’m grateful that I’ve been delivered from this addiction and hope that by being honest about it, I can encourage someone else who is struggling with the same issue. I would say that this addiction thrives with secrecy, as with most addictions. I struggled for a long time because I refused to talk to someone about it. If you have a mentor at church or a close God-fearing friend that you trust, tell them and get them to pray with you. Once you do that, start being practical and identify the things in your life that will trigger you to want to watch pornography, or become stricter with what you watch/listen to. (more…)

Lust ≠ Love Series: Overcoming Lust? Have A Plan.

Hey testifiers, It has been a while and I apologies. I think this week will have to be a busy one. To make up for the time lost. So here goes.

The next few post will include how to overcome lust and as well as more testimonies that relate to sexual lust and how these individuals overcame it.

I hope so far, the posts have ministered to you, please please please give in your feedback on what you have read so far and if you would like Lust ≠ Love Series 2 to be published (say so lol or you can even suggest a theme for another month). I currently have 2 in mind. But I will allow the Lord to guide me.


So back to the main purpose of the post…

Overcoming lust…

So you’ve admitted that lust is a major sin in your life *thumbs up*

You say you want to change – great!

So now, how are you going to do this?

I guess that that’s why you’re reading this post today – fair enough and thanks lool 🙂

I have a few questions for you though: I want to ask have you thought about… (more…)

Lust ≠ Love Series: THE FRAGMENTED SOUL.” SEX!”

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In addition to the increase in distance between God and us when we get involved in sexual lust. We also form soul ties (1 Corinthians 6:16).

Now it wouldn’t be right for me to go straight to “Overcoming Lust” without posting a post that actually refers to soul ties. Praise Jesus for wordpress, I have decided give you a new voice to the page today where I have rebloged a post from Pst Zino where the he hits several nails on the head…as in he’s on point.

I hope the post helps someone out there.


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Other posts included in this series:

 


“Come here and listen, let me tell you what God has done for me” – Psalm 66:16 (NKJ)

Write your own testimony in here

Pst.ZinoGenesis

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When we talk of sex, well even a lame man understands it and he can teach and explain the pleasures and benefit of it. Telling us the fun and blah blah blah about it to anybody at any given time. So there is no need explaining. I KNOW THAT YOU KNOW ALL ABOUT SEX!!!
But it takes a spiritual man to understand the consequences and the spiritual aspect of it. At this point we really know who is who!!! Haha!

Lest he tear my soul like a lion, rending it in pieces, while there is no one to deliver. Psalm 7:2

When we talk about sex we talk about Soul ties, They are directly Proportional. People thinks it just something we are Cooking up to scare people. Well I wish it were actually so.
The soul is so important that Jesus said in Matthew 16:26 ” What shall it profit…

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Lust ≠ Love Series: “Lust, I can’t beat it!” 😣 | Testimony – Samantha B

Today’s post will be divided into two parts.

Part 1 will explore the potential reasons as to why we find it hard to break the chains of lust. Part 2, is testimony time from a featuring blogger, whoop whoop!

As stated in the introduction, this is a series is based on sexual sin. However, this post can be applied to other forms of lust, so before you switch screen, please leave keypad alone and read on. (more…)

Lust ≠ Love Series: “We’re Not Equal!”

The aim of this post is to get both definitions of “lust and love”… OK, maybe you could have gone to a dictionary or looked it up on the internet. But this time round as you’re reading this through, I think it will be a good idea to check ourselves, check and evaluate ourselves and our relationships, friendships and even marriages…

I should emphasis on the point that whether you display lust or love characteristics, both substances have a funny way of an impact in our lives. Make sure it is the “love” that has an impact on you and your life. Allow your love for other people to bring you rewards. (more…)