The above title has probably just turned a lot of male heads away, but there are sections in the book for you to read too, so “leave the page and read the review and buy this book for your misses and you read it too.
Title: The New Spirit-Controlled Woman
Author: Beverly LaHaye (2005)
Our temperaments play a significant part in all areas of our lives and although there are four main types of temperaments (plus the twelve blends), it should be said that a male and female of the same temperament do have their differences (with the inclusion of other factors).
The book Spirit Controlled Temperament did its best by defining each of the temperament without defining itself with the emotion of a female or the masculinity of man. However, Beverley LaHaye (yes, Dr Timothy LaHaye’s wife) took the opportunity in the The New Spirit Controlled Woman to give a detailed description of each temperament in view of a female and once again highlighting the weaknesses and the strengths.
With the inclusion of referring back to the Word on how to overcome the mentioned weaknesses, Beverly also discusses the differences of how each of the temperaments and the spirit filled temperament of a woman effects the various factors, events and stages of a female’s life; personal life, interests, talents, parent-child relationship, dating, career choices, marriage and communication and even in-law relationships.
To conclude, our temperament was designed by God and with the help of the Holy Spirit, used for a great purpose. A spirit filled Melancholy will have a wealth full of talent, she will have the ability to do many things that are difficult and foreign to her natural temperament. A phlegmatic will stop shying away from tasks that will result into stand out and be a blessing onto others. A Choleric that is spirit controlled will be more patient when working with other people, she will be soft also sensitive. A Sanguine will be more disciplined and more dependable.
There is no better temperament.
My general thoughts on the book… (does contain spoilers)
If I thought The Spirit-Controlled Temperament was great, then The New Spirit Controlled Woman is even better. It is a must “multiply by hundred” read!
The books really doesn’t deserve to be read at a fast pace. There were too many notes to note down; that if I didn’t spend money on post stic notes, I doubt that another individual would have been able to use and read the book. I believe the book has a lot of valuable ingredients for a lady’s life of all ages and status.
So that I don’t ramble due to my excitement of the book, I am going to try and write three favourite points about the book. In the meantime, I hope you find it useful.
1. Although the book is aimed for women, there are sections of the book (if not all) that would be really useful for men to read and register, particularly those who are about to get married or are even married already. I guess the book emphasised to me the importance of knowing your temperament as well as your (future) spouse. Primary temperament at least, if you know your secondary, even better. Temperaments affect the way you communicate with people around you. Temperaments can even affect your love (romantic) life. And these are just a couple of factors that affect marriages and relationships today. I really enjoyed reading each of the temperaments strengths and weaknesses in relation to love life in a marriage. Thankfully, the author refers us back to the Word to overcome the weaknesses.
After a few days of the wedded bliss, I detected a habit that would be repeated day after day. Each morning I would find my husband’s socks right where he had removed his shoes the night before. They were never fully stretched out, but were always rolled up in little round balls – two of them! At first it was really no problem. I enjoyed picking up his socks and since I had a strong back, it really didn’t hurt me. But the days wore into week s and the weeks into months. One morning I noticed a little irritation as I picked them up – an irritation not in my back, but in my attitude… I introduced him to this special piece of furniture built to hold dirty clothes. Nevertheless, I continued to stumble over the dirty socks each morning. Stumble? Yes, because they were growing in size – at least in my mind and attitude.
It is very interesting how something so small as two dirty socks can throw your whole personality off balance. Just two socks irritated me so much that I became critical of many things that my husband did…
But one dull, gloomy day, I picked up the Bible…and read a verse that seemed to stand out from all the other verses:
And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him – Colossians 3:17.
In my own translations it seemed to say to me, “When you pick up after your husband – even his dirty socks – do it in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by Him. I quickly read on:
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord – 18
And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance, for you serve the Lord Christ – 23,24
I wasn’t just picking up the socks for my husband; I was serving the Lord by doing this, so I had to do it heartily as unto him. The Lord was using dirty socks to teach me a lesson…
2. Phlegmatic and the melancholy tend to sin against the spirit by worry, anxiety and fear. The sanguine and choleric grieve the Spirit through expressions of anger and bitterness and hostility. The Beverley LaHaye, does a brilliant job by stating different parts if the scripture the mentioned characteristics. And trust me…the book had motivated me to use this new month (August ’15) to start.
- Discouraged/Depressed/Joyless – Philippines everyday for 30 days
- Anger- Ephesians each day for a month
- Fear – James for 30 days
And there are plenty more in the book.
3. The book gives you the opportunity to receive God’s offer of salvation by inviting Jesus Christ into your life.
Worst point, there wasn’t any. I wish however, there was space to write notes in the book.
Which temperament are you?